Oh, Whabbear, I am so glad for you!
Can you say "PRECEDENT"?
I looked up the legal definition of the word,
because I wanted to be correct in its use, here.
It takes a bit of wading through, but I think that
it says what I am intending. Yea, for a thinking
judge! The DOMA is such a strange thing, really.
It seems to me that it is based in fear, like so
many other thoughts and choices 'out there'.
Geez.
PERCEPTION..... Perception is what it is,
and is no more than that. Each person's
perception will be different, based on what
she/he has seen, heard, thought, felt,
experienced, been taught and forcefed, et al.
Lack of knowledge and awareness so often
make up the weak underpinnings of a person's
perceptions, and, therefore, choices and
decisions and words and behaviors.
Consequences will result, from every choice
we make. Every choice. Yes, even from those
we make seemingly unconsciously, and
unawaredly.
Individuals must make the choices which are
right for themselves, and allow all others to do
the same. Of course we must all make these
choices with absolute awareness and integrity.
INTEGRITY, Look it up. Integrity informs our
entire lives. So does the lack, thereof.
We must educate ourselves and live consciously,
and we must make the right choices, having
thought things through, thoroughly, beforehand,
and we must be willing to take full responsibility
for the consequences of our choices. We can only
do this for ourselves. We cannot possibly take
responsibility for making the choices for anyone
else's life. No. Someone else's life is not about
us. It is about them. They have the full right to,
and the full responsibility to, make the choices
which are the right ones for them.
Someone else's ideas and needs and desires and
hopes and dreams about life, about love, about
marriage, may not be the same exact ones, in
every way, as the ones I hold for my own self.
That does not make theirs wrong. It just makes
them different. And, remember, different is not
less than. Different is just that. Different.
Each of us loves, and wants to be loved, and needs
to be loved. And secure. And fulfilled. And needed.
And to have a real purpose in life. Each of us is
born with rights, and no person or institution can
be allowed to remove or deny those rights. Ever.
As MLK said, "Injustice anywhere is a threat to
justice everywhere." Think about it. When an
individual or group works toward unjust laws,
they are helping to create an atmosphere, a
society, which will surely support the removal
of or denial of their own rights, too, due to ideas
founded on lack of knowledge and awareness. Let
us not go there. Let us stand up for the rights of
all human beings, and all other animals, and Nature,
the Universe, the environment with which we have
been so richly blessed. Let us do that.
Do not just go along with abuse, when you see it
or hear it. Speak up, from a place of wisdom and
knowledge and awareness and integrity. Abuse
is never acceptable. It is never ok. It is never
all right. It must never be tolerated. Ever. Not
verbal abuse or mental abuse or physical abuse
or sexual abuse. Not abuse in any form. Ever.
By the way, this includes any form or degree of
BULLYING.
This means living life from a place of INTEGRITY.
Every day. Every minute.
What say you?
I am
li'l red, as Jeepin would say.