Lets all go to ANT'S HOUSE and play WONDER WOMAN! we can be his new CLOSE FRIENDS!

Just think back to when you were a kid and didn't know a soul. When you went out to play you met kids with the same interest.....POOF FRIENDS! I love to swim and have made some new friends at our swimming pool.

ANT- I have friends since I was in nursing school. I don't have any friends since childhood other than a cousin. You just click with someone almost in the same way you would click with someone you liked more than a friend. It just feels right. I have friends from work in Winnipeg and yes the friendship ebs and flows as life changes, but you are always in contact. The friends I have in Vancouver since I moved here in 1980 are all from work. Of course I have worked in big clinics and Dr's offices and hospitals. I am friends with some people who have even moved to Seattle since they married someone there. I no longer work and as I got sick some friends that I'd go out dancing with fell by the wayside. I think I have 4 friends in Vancouver who have stuck by me illness or not. I am a very loyal friend and give of myself emotionally I think. I would have to ask these people why are we still friends. You grow together and apart, but life puts you in different circumstances. Now how you go about making new friends when your job is out of town gigs etc I don't have a clue? I have friends from all walks of life too so it's not just because of work. You start out that you work together and sometimes each person is a friend for a different reason. One friend loved to travel so we'd talk about that at the beginning. Another friend liked all the different foods I liked so we'd talk about that at the beginning. I lived here for 1 yr before my phone rang for someone to invite us to dinner. I talked to my friends in Wpg, but just talked to people at work. The people who invited us to dinner was because we were different and interesting for the table. The husband died now and the wife I don't hear from anymore. So that's life too. Does that help you any? No, probably not, but just be yourself and see what interests you that you both have common ground. &hearts:

Hello All!
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I am like Scrappy I find friends with the same interests. I don't look to hard because that will never work. Just be yourself and treat others as you would like them to treat you and Poof! You start having friends. Sometimes you get a really good friend, a Real Friend. But then I have lots of friends right here. **** Can you feel my Smile?
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Have a good day Colony. And thanks for being my friends.
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PS. Kandyed you have an email coming your way. I read the blog yesterday {{xo}}

ANT, that's a good question that's left me clueless...how do you meet new friends? I met all of my physical world friends in school when we were kids. My best friend Shay came up to me when I was 5 and she was 7 and told me I was her new best friend and had to carry her bookbag. She lives with me now, and nothing's changed lol. She's my only best friend who has stuck around, even when I moved out of town, even with my problems at home with my family, even during my grieving process with my aunt...she never walked away. And my mom pulled me out of school after 5th grade and has never allowed me to go back or to even join a club or group, so Shay is pretty much my only best friend. But she will be moving out this week. Her future plans are ready for her, my future plans aren't ready yet. I have no idea how to meet other local people until it's my turn to get out of this town.
I originally planned to move to Los Angeles with two friends that live out there, and wait until a youth shelter I was interested in had room for me. I could dust that plan off and be out there and then I would be your bestie ANT! :P
Or you could do what Paris did and have your own show searching for your new BFF. It'd be good for your career and personal life....just a thought. :)

O SNAP Kristen, that would be a HOOT!!! Hell i want to sign up for that show!!! Baaaa Haaaa! OMG, I would frick'in love to see who would come out (no pun intended) for that!!

Kristen's got it! I love the idea - so would ANT's producer friends. Make it happen! "Or you could do what Paris did and have your own show searching for your new BFF. It'd be good for your career and personal life....just a thought."

Playboy Celebrity Poker! Yayyyyyy! I picture this sign in my mind (ya know, cause the mansion is pretty big): Liquor in the front, poker in the rear.

Local friends? Maybe you could find me one also? Maybe we could have share-sies?

Chersies? It sounds like an elite slipper company by Cher. "Wear your Cher~" it has a ring to it, right?

The hell am I going today? Your guess would improve upon mine.

And speaking of improvement, I need a Nebby fix. That would improve me. :)

I have no suggestions for finding friends, how you find them, advice, etc. I can barely keep friendly with myself somedays. Other days I can hardly keep my hands off myself - say again?

The whole idea is to get diverted onto other things or other people, and sometimes both at the same time.

Like a monkey on the unicycle of life. OOO OOOOO AAAhhhh, or whatever monkeys usually say... that's what I say right now.

OOOooo ooooooo Ahhhhh!

And not "ooo eee oo ah ah," as chitty chitty bang bang would allow, but a different one.

xoxo C

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=thJOfavJLeA

p.s. ANT: Call your mother, sister... Dad... instead of going in emotional circles over this single scene.

You are needed elsewhere, yet you're exactly where you're supposed to be.

Uncle ANT could makes his niece's day by a simple phone call. Do it.

I've always heard (although it sounds oversimplified) that the best way to find a friend is to be one. I think that's probably true, though. If you spend your time looking for a friend, I would seriously doubt any real candidates would present themselves. Rather, if you keep an eye toward someone who looks as if they need a friend and then you try to fill in the blank for them, it just may be that the two of you "click" and a friendship is formed. If not, at least you have fulfilled another person's temporary need and in doing so, given yourself some fulfillment, too.
One thing though: I no longer divide my cyber friendships and local friendships into "real" and "not real" categories. A few of the cyber friendships I have developed are as REAL as any physically local friendships I've ever had. They mean more to me, the provide more to me, they sustain me, and although they may have more "challenges" as far as it being difficult to "hang out," I do not count them out. I think some of them, if given the proper chance, could pan out to be two or three of my lifelong friendships. So, that's worth keeping an open mind for, too. I'll bet I'm not the only one in ant-land who feels that way.

ANT I am going to Canobie Lake Park today, and I will take a ride on the ferris wheel for you.

How to make a friend, well.........
I find that I go out and do things I like to do, and be myself, before you know it, you end up with three aquaintences and one friend. I often recommend meetup.com for ways to find people that have similar interests. It is organized online but a face to face meet group. Our playgroup organizes there but there are walking groups, knitting groups, dinning out groups you name it. They are not necessarily singles meetup groups but they have those too if you're looking. You have more friends than you know what to do with. You also travel so often that they don't have to be in your zip code to be "there" for you. I went through my closet of "friends" too after a major life eye opener and realized that most of what was in my closet was "good will" on my part. I just made a mental check to not invest more into those relationships and to keep perspective. I still am friends with kids I went to kindergarten with. I am 42 and have known many of my friends since birth. They are not all great friends and often I tell them they suck and that I really should get new friends that would do a better job. They laugh at me and say "you would miss us". They are right but that doesn't mean I always get what I need from those friendships. Often, you have one or two friends that really fill that place in your life. They also may only fill a certain moment in time, but they are great friends in that moment. If a certain song comes on the radio, you must pick up the phone and call so and so, because that is your moment. Enjoy them all, don't discount even the smallest friendships because it took me a long time to have friends that I have had 42 years.

I will promise you that if you ever want to come home, feel like a regular Joe, have a home cooked meal, sleep in a regular bed without the drapes and the spread matching, you are welcome in my home anytime. I think you are funny, smart, giving and would be a great friend to anyone who would have you.

(You are probably wondering, who the hell would be friends with that nut???)

Pammie I love you.

I can't view the video yet, but I'm going to take a stab at what it's all about. I have friends from every stage of my life. Friends that I know I could call and they're right there. But, I don't have that "BFF", the person that you can relate to and can share my innermost hurts, desires, fears, and joys with. So, despite having hundreds of friends and being able to find someone to talk to no matter where I'm at, I get very lonely sometimes. Sometimes, I want to find that significant other to spend my life with. Other times, a relationship scares me too the point that I lterally run from it. So, the way I deal with life is to take it a day at a time and be a friend to others. Sometimes that means physically getting up and going somewhere even when I'm tired and want to stay home. I joined a softball team at a local church just to put myself out there. This is scary for me because I haven't been in church since coming out for fear of being shunned. My body hurts like hell after the first practice but I will stick with it because I can't sit home and curl up in a ball, although a lot of times I want to.

GOOD MORNING COLONY
how wonderful to wake up to a new blog, and I love the subject matter

after all friends and love go hand in hand, not necessarily romance love but that comfortable owrn in slippers feeling love

the best friendships for me weren't work, they just happened unplanned.
like Beck, my first ones were from school days and the kids in the neighborhood. They were always close by and available for anything...bikes, skates playing records, swimming, monopoly, war, playing Barbie and Ken...well you get the picture.
My most recent 'friendship' was forged during a bus tour we sat across the aisle from each other and being a week long trip talked about many things and found we just clicked with interests, and backgrounds and we live near enough to each other to continue to see and support (she was diagnosed with breast cancer after the trip) each other. We have invited each other out to lunch, dinner, plays, meetings, casino swapped plants and cards...well you get the picture...it just happened, no work involved.
So that's my 2 cents worth
I leave in an hr to spend the day with AARP (another place to make friends, I have a 90 yr old man that looks forward to my bringing him jokes to read at our once-a-month meetings, his mind is a little foggy these days, but he always remembers me and my jokes) I am going to a musical 'SUDS' with 60's music at the Lawrence Welk Resort theater
so I will leave you with this

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=RPS
BSA

Oh and congrats on #1 Scraps, hope everything gets resolved at your work this week

This is a hard topic for me for some reason. I've always been shy (not a joiner) and that has made it very difficult to make friends. The friends I have are ones that I've had for years and who I met through work. I guess I've always valued quality rather than quantity in the friendship department. I try to be a loyal friend and expect the same in return.

It was only after 'life happened' that I realized just how important friends were. Don't get me wrong, they were always important to me but just in a different way. Today I value the friends I have more than ever.

This was one of the reasons I started on the blog and myspace. I wanted to increase my friend base and feel that I have accomplished that. Like ROBIN I have high hopes that a few of the friendships I've made here will turn out to be lifelong ones. I know that you don't have to be face-to-face to have a strong, loving and lasting friendship.

Sorry ANT I know this doesn't answer your question of where to find friends because basically I have no idea! LOL

Now is a good time to thank you all for being here and for making life a lot more fun and easier to take sometimes. LOVE TO ALL.

I just make a friend by always smiling. I smile at everyone, and a good many return the smile. The people I meet for a once time thing sometimes turn into friends all because I believe I am friendly and I smile. It is a sincere smile, not one plastered on for looks. I really do enjoy smiling at everyone.
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And that smile is back for most of the day. I can now get about 5 hours of sleep before the pain starts in which is much better and easier to handle. I am no longer on the breaking point of suicide, but I still don't want to be here. I'd much prefer to go home! But I did want you all to know how much better I am doing now.
Love Jean

((ANT))I believe the answer is on that box you made at the beginning of the year. The one you put all the pictures on and tied a bow around.
:-)

The fact you are doing a talk show is wonderful! Wow! I think it would be great to see how many ANT Colony members we could get to be your studio audience. :-) :-)

New Blog, YAY! Aww Ant!!! How great of you to share this with us. It is a hard/easy topic to me. It all depends on what kind of friend you want to make. Like Jean, I smile a lot and it is genuine. I have had many great conversations with people just because I smiled at them and it broke the ice. But to have the friendships where it is a true give and take filled with support when you need it and when they need it. I think those are rare. When I was in high school, I always had a lot of "friends". My mom told me one day that the word friend was overused and I should really think about how and who I wanted to really call a friend, that when you get to be an adult, you will be lucky if you have outside of your family, 2-3 true friends. Not people you hang out with or go to dinner, but people you could actually call if your whole world fell apart and they would really be there for you. I didn't get it then, but I get it now. I am usually the friend people want to call when they need someone to listen, but there are a lot of friendships where that is the role you play and it is really not reciprocal. I guess what I am saying in a roundabout way is that if you have friendships that are real, consider yourself lucky and consider everyone you meet as a potential friend. Just be yourself and when you click with someone, make sure you actually follow up on it. I think a lot of potential friendships end because people are insecure about what they can bring to it. I also think that as a celebrity, it has to be harder to make real friends. I also want to take this time to say that I am grateful for the friendships I have made because of Ant allowing us to post here and to share so much. It is truly amazing to me that I even post here. I was very much not an internet person before I came across this place and I was a lurker for a long time, it has really been a blessing in my life and I am so thankful to all of you who come and post whenever you can and teach me through your own experiences. ♥♥♥♥

{{{{{JEAN}}}}} I am so glad you are feeling a little better!! :o)

Have a great Tuesday ALL!

After I posted my comment, mentioning that I could toootally be your bff, I started thinking "oh yea right, no adult wants to be friends with a teenager". But then I was thinking about the friends I've made here - all adults - and the fact that they've all helped me through some very dark times recently. And that age wasn't on their minds. I'm much more open about the fact that I do come from a very abusive and broken home, and with the help of the friends I've made here, I'm closer to getting out and living a better life. What if you got involved with a program for youth? Ok hear me out :P
...You have changed my life also ANT, in ways that I can't even begin to explain. I've tried telling you a couple times, but I always go on and on and on and I end up typing too much lol. So I've left a lot of things out. To make it short, I'm still here today because you're here. There are so many problems with youth now adays, I can tell you as one of them, we're just looking for one person to be there and show up. One person to talk to. One person to lean on. One person to learn from. Not someone who's being paid to listen to our problems and then send us on our way...but a friend who cares and who will always be there. Take it from me ANT.
I'm on a waiting list right now to get into a housing program for gay youth. And I've been in contact with the people who work and live at the house. They've all said that everyone there, or even just one person, will become apart of my life forever, even after I graduate and leave. But do I have to wait for that day when I finally move in for that one person to be there? It could be months before I get that phone call saying a bedroom is now available.
I know there are programs in LA since you're looking for a local friend. Maybe a teenager isn't what you're looking for in a friend, but trust me, not all teenagers wanna talk about how hot Rob Pattinson is or "Oh my god, did you, like, see Becky's shirt today?!"
You've reminded me that there are still good people left on this earth. And you still remind me everyday, just by being who you are. It could be a start. Or it could be a totally stupid idea. lol. But like I said, because of you, I'm still here...
Think about it.

Just dropping in for a quick hello! Hope everyone is doing well.
Love you Ant. ((Ant))

It is interesting after looking over the postings it seems no one really knows how to make new "local" friends. I am in the same boat as a lot of people here. You lose friends, they move away, etc. I did the church, personal ad thing, etc but it left me empty. What I find out that is really interesting is when you are single and you hang out with a single friend once that single friend finds a partner you are no longer the friend. Relationships/marriage have ended a lot of my friendships. It just seemed they no longer had time for me. ANYWAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY.....I can not wait until the ANT COLONY get together July 10th in Seattle and then the next day the R FAMILY CRUISE. Well I am off to shave my head and then on to work. I just wanted to drop in just to say hello to all. HUGS TO EVERYONE...>>>>

HELLO!!!!!! Nice to see you!
TALK SHOW!?!? GROOVE!!!!!
Be careful of the "local close friends" Sweetie! I bet they will come crawling out of the woodwork after seeing this! HA!HA!HA!
How to become friends with someone.
Hmmmm.
It just happens. You click.
You can't force it and hopefully you or another person do NOT force it cuz then, well, it may not be a real friendship.... and it sounds to me like you are looking for real quality and heartfelt not just someone to hang with, or someone who latches on to you for "celeb reasons" cuz I know that happens to you.

I have to think about this some more.
Back later.
Thank you for the prayer.
I needed that for myself.
Chirpity...... chirp! :o)

Ant - I am surprised that someone as outgoing as you would have troubles making friends. I find it easy to make friends by just talking about what interests me. When you are enthusiastic about a subject, others become enthused if common interest.

It depends what you want in a friend. My must have is someone with compassion for humans, animals and nature. and it helps if they are a bit crazy. Almost all the close friends i made, we started off going head to head. As they had the same passion and drive as i did. For me i like a friend with some balls to go with the compassion. The ability to stand up for what they believe in and ability to tell me to back off if they disagree. Someone who will tell it like it is. Not afraid to express because their ego wont allow it.

So its all about what you want. what kind of people you want to attract. Do you want someone to play with? or to have long lasting friendship with? That is when you have to learn the difference between fun people and sincere people. I used to be attacted to the wildest people. guess i still am, but i know now most are trouble. so for me Heart is most important.

And in addition.
Did I tell you that I love your tweedeo tweet?
I didn’t first like tweedeo but how you say it has changed my mind.
I love it. And you.

How did I meet my real world friends I am thinking. Hmmm. They just happened. It clicked. The ones I met that DIDN’T work out AT ALL are ones that were “Forced”. I personally think I have always been cautious about friendships due to not knowing how to get rid of ones that you find out too late are “odd”! HA!HA!HA!HA! in small towns, it is not like you can just disappear into the city ya know! :o)
I think having interests in common but moreso, common beliefs about things. I have some old friends that would simply shit if they saw my facebook. I am tooooooo liberal for them period. They are no longer people who I would hang out with and do things with on a monthly basis simply because I won’t deal with narrowminded people who think gay is wrong or that having a black President is “scarey” etc.
I am not saying you and friends have to be clones…….. just that there are some things that you have to know that you can’t say is ok.

I don’t have many local friends. My neighbor has become a good friend of mine. She is open minded and fun yet lives a very sheltered “ward and june cleaver” life for herself in many ways. I have another friend here who I do things with, and also a cousin who I never really knew growing up.

For me, making “local” friends is hard. I really am too liberal for most people I meet. I don’t have kids, so in your 40’s that means many people are busy with their kids and families and don’t live like Blake and I do.
I don’t go to the local sporting events and that is about all there is to do! HA!HA!HA!HA!
I am making a new friend or 2 through my art group. But, also finding that artist does not mean liberal or that we are made to be friends. I am too ‘out there’ for many in my group.

I don’t know that I have good advice for friendship making.
It is a truly hard thing. They also say that once you are past your 20s, it is even more difficult to be in situations to make good friends. I don’t believe that, as I feel the friends I now make are more true and real.
I do tend to not so much have my guard up, but moreso I think my insecurities make me question if someone wants to be my friend. I wonder what in the world I can offer them and will I fall short and am I being enough of a friend. I feel like I fall short even with my colony friends. something else on the list of things I am working on constantly.

You will make friends ANT. They will come to you. LOA them and ask that you are sent true ones, not leeches or users or people coming because you are famous or because they want something. Ask for the wisdom to see who is real both in real life local and even your internet colony community. You have the wisdom. You will find the most amazing friends. Love, Emjay

((( ANT)))) Thankyou for a new Video Blog..They were missed!..As much as I appreciate the times when u Tweedeo Tweet there is just that "something something" more reachable when you share your thoughts and feelings.
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Like Kandyed I was going to suggest Meetup as well...For myself, I didn't have a good experiance and ended up having a stalker issue..But that was my fault and I shared too much info too soon...I can be very personable and that's what happens to me...I know other people who have made many friends and enjoy it very much.

(((( DEE))))..I read about your precious Sophie..I'm am so sorry xo
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Jean..I am so glad your feeling better :) xo
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Hi Kenny..It's nice to see you here again. :)..I just had to giggle when u said " I am off to shave my head"..it was like, it just came out of nowhere..lol

OH I triple LUV Kristen's idea of ANT's BFF!

BB/Robin..Your 5:17 comment.. ♥♥♥♥

"I also want to take this time to say that I am grateful for the friendships I have made because of Ant allowing us to post here and to share so much."

I would also like to say it but copied Mrs.Bean/Erin instead.. :) xo

It is truly amazing to me that I even post here.

ANT I am so happy to hear of your talk show..BUT! I'm pretty sure it won't be available to see in Canada whether on TV or online..I wish you so much success with that ! xo

Hmmm...me thinks I made the wrong decision in drinking a Guru-lite and a coffee 1 hour apart..I'm rambling..lol

"It is truly amazing to me that I even post here."..Oops how did that get in there...That comment was from Mrs.Bean...Actually I'm glad it did because I so thankful to have Mrs.B post here. :)

Well if your still reading and not annoyed with all my comments...Please keep me in mind Friday at 9am..I am going to hopefully, with crossed fingers and toes going to hear some positive exciting news from my Ortho... :)

I LOVE YOU ALL- FOR REALS ♥ ♥

Nebbyyyyyyyyyyyyy I /we miss you..HiHi xo

ANT...Have a fantabulous time at ANTM!!!..Last week, Canada's Next Time model began season 3..Jay is the Host for this one.

Alright...I think I'm done now ;)

SYTYCD Tonight everyone!!! Zone out TV. I need it so badly.

we had the pres. on here and sytycd wasnt on... booooooo i love that show

Just a quick drive by..and baby update. Emmy had now been off the ventilator for 24 hours with no problems. They moved her feeding tube so that it is smaller and now in her nose. This is so that they can start trying to give her a bottle. Brit fed her a little today, but because she has only had a pacifier in the NICU, Brit said it kind of shocked her when liquid came through the bottle...LOL. She is continually making gains. Thanks for your prayers and good thoughts.
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Friendship advice...I do agree with everyone here that most friendships just happen. If I had to pick someone that I call my closest friend right now, it would be my drag queen friend. We hand out alot and talk about alot of things. The funny thing is, the first time I ever met him...it was New Year's Eve at the bar and he cracked a joke from the stage about my hair. He called it a mullet, which it wasn't, but it was funny because Brit had just told me that it was getting too long and mullet-like. So, I went and got it cut the next week. The next time I went, James noticed and made another comment from stage, and we've been good friends since then. I do find that although I don't burn bridges and generally once I am friends with someone, we are friends for life...that the intensity of my friendships really have to do with where I'm at in my life at any given time. Someone that I was great friends with 5 years ago, I rarely see now. Not that there has ever been an issue, but where we are right now is two different places. We check in with each other still, but we no longer have deep conversations...that's not a bad thing, just the way it is. So yeah, friends just happen and they will change from week to week and year to year.

GOODNIGHT EVERYONE. ♥ ♥

GOODMORNING EAST COAST. I am going to bed now so have a great day. &heart; ♥

I'm surprised nobody asked, so I will.

What is this exactly?

"Superfantastic califragilistic ocious"

That's the most severe spankin' Mary Poppins has ever gotten (that we are publically aware)

♥

GuruLite? I hope for someone's sake that isn't what I think it is.

gosh darn no good for nuthin frost! As the tray of little bedding plants turn black and curl their leaves up, wondering why they bothered to stretch their little leaves. {sniff}

I want to thank everyone for their prayers and healing hugs. With Corey's undivided help I was able to weather this dark nasty storm while I waited for the pain to ease. I can now get about 5 hours of sleep before I must get up, but that is certainly much better than 2 and half on and 2 and half off. Suicide no longer looms in the back of my mind except as a Stupid Thing To Think Of! Well, I am off back to bed. The pain has lifted enough for me to sleep.
Love you all,
Jean

Happy Wednesday Everybody. Have a great day. Love To All.

Emjay you made me think about something.

Friends are often in little compartments. Catagories either from a time in your life or from a part of your personality. I have friends that are all over the map and could never get them all in one room or else we would have some type of global incident. Based on that statement, I don't think I have to agree with much of what think or believe to find the spark of friendship.

I have a friend that went to high school with me that is a promoter of fetish events....yeah I just said that. The last time I saw him, was in a room filled with men and women, all wearing latex and doing unspeakable things. He was quite pleased with his work and wanted me too see the decor he had come up with.

I have another friend that been the most conservative republican since birth, who has his eye on the presidency, and he is getting close. He served the Bush administration for the last eight years in an amazing position. If I had them both over, it would be a scandal. LOL

While I would never be dressed in latex displaying public affection, nor would I be seen regularly schmoozing at the white house, I am happy to know them both. They are both friends that would be there if I needed them. If they needed me, I would be there as well. I have extremely high expectations of my friends and am very clear about what makes me uncomfortable, but we don't have to live the same experience in order to be friends. Respect is the key to success.

It has been important to me not to stay away from people who share different ideas from my own. I want to understand my opposer and learn what makes them tick. Usually there is some redeemable quality in everyone, and once we have found that in each other, it is hard not to be friends.

Where is everyone?

HELLO???

{{{{{JEAN}}}}}

{{{{{Baby EMMY}}}}}

{{{{{colony}}}}}

{{{{{DEE}}}}}

hi Steph....I thought for a moment I was totally alone.

I should know better, no one at the colony is ever totally alone. =)

Kandyed. I agree with you completely.
I don't think I wrote what I wrote exactly right. I am very tolerant and open minded and welcome friends who's lifestyles and opinions differ from mine. I guess I just was thinking of some of my old friends who are sooooo intolerant and narrow minded that they are the ones who are not open to my feelings and thoughts on things. I feel that I cannot be myself around them due to their judgement and, to be honest, bigotted hatred towards certain people. I think there are just some things that make friendships end. One of my friends laughing at Matthew Shepards murder for instance, is sorta a friendship breaker for me.

Mutual respect truly is the key.

I think you wrote it well, it was that it made me think of times when I had to say goodbye to friends that were not respectful. I think when I read your stuff I take it and keep going.

I love your philosophy Kandyed
my Grandma's was...everyone in the world was her friend and she just hadn't met all her friends yet, and like TLJ she met everyone with a smile

Emjay your post was an inspiration to make me think of when I say goodbye and when and where those friends not only come from but where they end up when I keep them. My response wasn't a dispute now that I reread it, perhaps it seems like I am debating the topic with you....sorry. =) Not my intention, it was more that you inspired me to think deeper into the topic.

Just wanted to post here as I did on MySpace that I may practically disappear for a little over a week with my big work event coming up June 13. Things are getting crazy early this year. So, if I can't make it in for a drive-by, please know that I keep you all in my thoughts and prayers, and I'll see you again very soon.
But, if you haven't heard from me by the end of the day June 15, send in the Marines (or, actually, any cute men in uniforms will do.)

Good Morning Everyone!!! What a gorgeous day! from freezing to 80 degrees. I spent the night making a video. well editing a vid Jack and the kids made. Too fun!

Kandyed! Its so great to see you posting. You always say the most interesting things. I admire your ability to make all kinds of friends. I too am the same. Where i have friends from homeless to well off. city and country friends. uneducated to over educated.

but like Emjay I cant be friends with someone who bashes gays or blacks or hispanics, etc. i couldnt be friends with someone who was not kind to animals. or who supported torture. Those arent left or right beliefs. just human to me.

Not saying i wont talk to people with those beliefs so we can learn from each other, but we wouldnt be close. But da-amn Kandyed I want to party with you and your friends. Sounds like an adventure.

Emjay. Can i say just how much i Love you! You are truly a kindred spirit. Often i dont post because you express perfectly what i want to say. and im surprised you are still here and not off painting the sistine chapel. You are the most talented artist i have ever seen. ♥

Jean! You hang in there k? I know it must be tough right now and you are doing very well with what you are going thru. Please know i am here too if you need to talk. Im not a morning person, but if you ever need to talk please email me at deezerdee@yahoo.com and i will call you.

I understand how are you are feeling and just want you to know im here. Just keep posting so we can all be here for you. so you know how much we care. You gave me hugs and picked me up when i was having a hard time. i would love to return the favor. ♥♥♥♥

Well its officially summer. Just flashed my first person of the year. doh. Wish i knew that workman was there before i moseyed on to the deck.

*Knock Knock Knock!* Can I come in?? :)

Oh wow it's been a while! Where to begin??!!

Miss you all!!

oopsies missed not miss well you all know what I meant anyway ;)

ANT to answer your question, the easiest way to make friends is just to be yourself. You can always find an activity that you like doing and go do it and you just might meet people that enjoying doing the same activity as you and make new friends. But when you meet a potential friend it will just click you know. Let it happen naturally, don't rush anything :)

You know what should be organized for you ANT? You know those dating things the speed dating thingys well, there should be one just for you called Friendship speed meeting or something like that :) wouldn't that be cool! :)

((((Chris)))) You make me smile! Missed your face off!! P.s. check your myspace mail when you get the chance ;)

((((Dee)))) Sweetie, so sorry to hear about Sophie. Big HUGSSSSS your way. And LOL at the flashing of the workman outside. I'm sure he thought "Well HELLO!" haha!

(((((Ali))))) MISS YOU!

((((Heidi)))) What can I say that you already don't know? Big hugsssss to you. Will be thinking of you on Friday sweetie.

Scrappysmom! Woot Woot!! OMG I'm so proud of you! Keep it up!

And to Chris also OMG Woot Woot!! Amazing!

(((((DAWN))))
(((((TERI))))

Just cause...you are both so amazing. xox

For those that asked, my dad is still in the hospital but will be moved to a stroke rehabilitation center soon. He has to make more progress before being able to come home. It would be to much for my mom to handle by herself. She has help during the day when my dad is home but in the evening and night she doesn't and if he would fall for example, she wouldn't be able to lift him up by herself. So he needs to be stronger before he can come home. He is doing little progress all the time so that's good. It will take time, but progress is progress :)

Special thought for Janine. Thinking of you always and missing you. Sending TONS of light and HUGSSSSS your way sweetie. Hope you feel them.

I'll be back later. Take care everyone.

Whan an amazing turn in history.

Today New Hampshire legalized gay marriage.

I hope the frustration over Prop 8 is somewhat eased.

♥

All I have to say to homos and lezzies everywhere is... Welcome to New Hampshire!!

yayyyyyyyy

(and you know that I use the slang words loosely because... well I'm a lesbian so I'm allowed. What?)

Live Free ~

Our state tourism revenue probably just multiplied itself by ten with that decision alone. Those smart bastards.

Yes it's good for "equality," but the bottom line sits well with the Treasury Department, safe to assume.

$$$ ~Cha~Ching!! $$$ (Do you take this man to be your husband?) $$$ ~ChaChing!!~ChaChingChing $$$

I shouldn't joke. I joke. ♥

p.s. Thank you American Gays and Lesbians for paving our interstate highways in 2010! If you splurge a little extra we could use the help on the seacoast beaches as well. Thanks for your generosity. Signed, The People of NH

just kidding... I'm so lame I don't even know what the revenue will be spent on (but I'll find out shortly)

Me love ya's long time

Hi everybody!!!! Long time no chat!
I've had a rough month or so and haven't really wanted to talk much. I've been real sick and my grandma is still in the ICU after weeks of being there, but she is soon to be moved to another room.

Anyway, I just wanted to comment on this whole friend thing. I think the easiest way to make friends is to just strike up polite conversations with people, wherever you are. If you find that you like talking to this person and they make you feel comfortable, I think you will each start talking about different things, in which you will mostly likely find common ground. With that common ground, usually that creates a friendship. How deep it goes depends on what either of you is looking for. But, I think that those are the basic essentials of creating a "friendship." Just my two cents.

I have stopped by often to check out the vlogs and what not, but have not always had time to read what's going on with everyone. So, with that, I hope everyone is well.

Hi ALL!

NEBLINA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So good to see you, I will be thinking of you and your family. I hope your dad gets everything he needs, so he can come home soon.

CHRIS--As usual you crack me up. I am picturing those roadside signs that say Adopt a Highway and then tell which group is responsible for keeping that section clean and litter free. Now there can be signs that say this park or pothole free highway.... brought to you by gay marriage. That may be funnier in my head than it actually is. I apologize if it is only funny to my mind!

KANDYED--I loved your descriptions. I have a very similar friend situation to what you described. I learned when I was in 6th grade that I didn't have a "type" of friend that I wanted. I like so many things about people that it transfers into liking all different kinds of people, but what they all generally have in common, even if they demonstrate it differently, is a big heart. I had a slumber party in 6th grade for my birthday, my mom let me invite 12 girls (that was a lot when I had 5 siblings). I loved all of them, but was not wise enough yet to realize they did not all love each other. It was such a horrible night, people being mean to each other, me caught in the middle, but it was a lesson to me that not everyone wants to or is capable of getting along with everyone else.

BEDBUG--Good Luck!! Will send the search party if you don't return!! Miss you :o)

RENIN77--Sorry you have been feeling bad. Hope you feel better soon! ♥

{{{{{DAWN}}}}} Thinking of you!! ♥

ALI, JEAN, TERI, HEIDI, DEE and anyone else who needs love and positive thoughts. ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥...
Love to ALL of you!!!

{{{{CRAIG}}}}

New Tweedeo! :o)

Well first off...I agree with all the previous posters about friendship. Especially Emjay. I have friends from all walks of life. I need to keep some away from others, but we work it out.
When I became more of a homebody and stopped hosting so many Holiday Parties, I had a few friends drop off. Then there were political friends that had to go by the wayside. Even my sister and I bumped head over so many issues we only talk on myspace now.
But...I have gained so many new friends and they seem to except me for who I am now, not who I was before, so I don't have to spend all my time explaining why and how I've changed!
One friend I met from The Fibromyalgia Network and I introduced her here, to the blog.
She likes it here so much she and her husband came with me to Wichita to met ANT and all the ANTlings! Her name is Linda and she has been a observANT for awhile now.
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I just want to tell everyone how much you guys truly mean to me!
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I LOVE YOU ALL!
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And I LOVE ANT!

...and in regards to New Hampshire
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SPANK THAT
"Miss Runner-Up Freakin'USA"

HI EVERYONE
I have not read anything. My server has been down all day so NO TV & NO computer!!! I'll be back tomorrow.

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